Just a few comments on my support, or perceived lack thereof, for Calzona at this point in time. First off, pointing out things I think were handled improperly or came off as confusing within the relationship does not mean that I am writing off what Calzona used to be or what it has the potential to possibly become again. The current state they have the relationship in has caused me to really take a look at things they’ve gone through and realize that I do not enjoy the current relationship in the way I did when I first fell in love with Calzona.
Second, comments and opinions about Callie or my frustrations with the way the bi storyline has been written are not attacks against Callie. It’s an unfortunate byproduct of the fact that the bi story came through the character of Callie and as a result it’s hard to mention it without mentioning her. I can only comment on what Grey’s shows us on the screen, and the entirety of their handling of bi has come through actions and dialogue offered to us through Callie.
I do not enjoy being accused of campaigning against Calzona simply because I am not tweeting MFEO and CalzonaStrong. I have grieved for this relationship for some time now, I was a fan of it for years, and as with any type of grieving, there comes a point where the only way to finish the grieving is to move on, which is what I have done. It’s possible that Calzona may be reestablished, but I see the limitations and they need to move on. And this may result in only a friendship in which both find other life partners. Many other Grey’s relationships have fallen apart never to be put back together. Their fans disliked it just as much, but they had to come to terms with it and move on as well.
I don’t feel constantly supporting Calzona is a requirement when we’re clearly in a section of their journey in which Calzona is not doing well as a couple. Even without saying that, I don’t feel it necessary to have unending support for the following reasons:
– This is an Arizona fan account, not Calzona. We focus on highlighting and supporting Arizona. As a result we identify with her feelings at the time they are occurring. When she was so happy in the relationship, we were equally as happy and loved it. As both she and Callie started doing things detrimental to the relationship, we criticized both for those things individually. With Arizona clearly having moved on from Calzona right now, we too have done so. We identify with her, and so our reaction to Calzona tends to match up with hers at any given time.
– Not supporting every detail and every element associated with something does not mean I am against it entirely. I think two big misconceptions exist in society. If you don’t agree with or support everything about someone or something you fear or hate it. Likewise, if you love someone or something, that means you agree with them/it on every matter. I think both of those are highly inaccurate. Our differences in thoughts and opinions make us unique and human.
– Wanting new things for the character I support is normal (and acceptable).
Just as those who tend to identify more with Callie enjoy seeing her explore the dating scene and have opportunities with new people, I too would like to see Arizona have that chance. Just because I would like to see something new for her, does not mean I was, am, or will be in the future against Calzona.
I am not attacking Callie and I’m not against her being bi, I am disappointed with the way bi has been portrayed. It seems to be as if they’re attempting to show that because a person can be equally attracted to both that they feel the need to constantly go back and forth. I realize that some have pointed out it’s because of the fact that bi are attracted to both, but I don’t think it necessary to have Callie state twice in one episode that she is nor do I think they had to throw 2 women and 2 men at her in the space of about 5 episodes. Came across as forced and misrepresented things a bit, in my opinion.
I simply would ask that people not be so quick to jump to conclusions and give others the benefit of having a differing opinion. We all process things differently and presenting my thoughts on the subject is not a form of hatred towards anyone. I am simply being critical of a fictional portrayal of something. Unfortunately, this is hard to do in 140 character and as a result can be easily misread and misunderstood; even harder when English is not your native language.