Is the streak of well- written, intense and enjoyable episodes on Grey’s Anatomy over? Perhaps not! The medical drama is notorious for its last minute twists and turns and the current season is far from over. Unfortunately, our adrenaline levels can’t be raised every week, our hearts can’t race like wild animals every Thursday night and our guts can’t be punched on regular basis. Shondaland makes sure that our Grey’s addiction is properly monitored and controlled.
“With or Without You” was one of those filler episodes that feeds the viewer with boredom and takes away the sensation of being high. It leaves you with nothing but a yawn when the props Edwards and Jo take too much screen time with boring interactions and medical cases. At times one can doze off when clueless Owen Hunt tries to metabolize the information of his mother and her much younger lover. But then there is Amelia who somehow manages to snap us out of our meditative state by calling Owen out on his jackass attitude. Wide awake and in full consciousness we are reminded that Derek Shepherd is back and some trouble in MerDer paradise is looming. Derek came back home and Meredith’s streak is over.
What’s not over is one of the core themes on Greys’ Anatomy. Adultery. This notorious heroine is never homeless on Grey’s Anatomy. Season after season, through current stories and back stories this invisible character always finds its way to show a different face, to stick its claws into someone’s heart and the irony of it all, to unite lovers in committed relationships and we call it a celebration of love.
The list of cheaters on Grey’s Anatomy is a long one, the triggers behind the cheating- a wide range of reasons and the consequences- forgiveness is not always granted. To quote Dr. Bailey “things don’t happen in a vacuum.” Things are not always black and white. But cheating is a choice.
However, the bottom line is that the blame can’t be pinned on the cheater or the cheated. In fact there is no one to blame. Taking responsibility for one’s actions is what’s important. Moreover, it entirely comes to the person and how they define cheating; how much they can accept and forgive when all cards are on the table. It gets tricky and deceiving when a vital piece of information is not disclosed.
Meredith Grey and Derek Shepherd’s love is a product of such an adulterous irony. After on and off, cheating was the ultimate force to throw Meredith and Derek in each other’s arms. Yes, they were in love back then and longed for each other, but that doesn’t excuse their deeds and doesn’t lessen the pain they inflicted. The simple fact is they cheated.
However, karma is a bitch. What comes around goes back around and sometimes in a very ugly way.
The mysterious woman on the phone was revealed. What’s even more bothering is that the writers actually showed us very much of this woman. Derek and his lady research fellow formed and developed a connection from the moment they locked eyes. There was an undeniable attraction between them, attraction that went beyond the physical for two months. Consciously, Derek and his dreamy eyes telegraphed signals that screamed “kiss me”. And when it happened he sobered up and ran away. The knight in shining armour blinded the lady of his heart with dreamy and beautiful words of love, hid a piece of information and lied by omission.
Did he cheat? Yes, he did! Emotionally he cheated, kiss or no kiss, Derek got emotionally involved with this woman. And no, he didn’t! Physically, he didn’t sleep with her. But he lied. If this woman and the kiss were so unimportant, why would Derek lie? To protect Meredith? Or to protect himself? Is this really love?
It is rather sad that in such a cheap way Derek realized that his life is in Seattle with Meredith and the kids. And his words of proving his love were mostly directed to himself and his giant male ego.
It is very possible that this might be an early set-up for Meredith and Derek’s separation. Otherwise, Derek had it very easy off the hook with his cowardice, sweet little lie. Or maybe it would be the case of ‘sometimes ignorance is bliss’ and many fans will find it in their hearts to forgive Derek’s innocent kiss and his emotional straying from the marriage, though the reasons for his actions aren’t entirely known.
If Derek can be forgiven, why not Arizona as well? The woman didn’t even try to deny it or go along and back up the made-up story of Dr. Boswell. In her betrayal there was nothing emotional, only lust, passion and a craving for some attention. Someone showed interest in her, made her feel visible, sexy and attractive post plane crash. She cheated physically and yet the character has been damned the Queen of Cheaters.
To mention a few more cheaters from the long list who stand out with their performance in the adultery department.
Ellis Grey and Richard Webber both cheated on their spouses, physically and emotionally and yet they are the example of this great story about love. Owen Hunt, the man who cheats, whenever there are two women in his orbit. The man, who punishes his wife for aborting their child by cheating to revenge and serve justice.
And then there was Mark Sloan, the ultimate womanizer. Cheating was his life style and many liked him.
Cheating is a very ugly betrayal, but also shows the humans’ weakness and strength. Weakness in the lack of control and obedience to one’s body’s needs and strength, not in the heroic kind of way, but in the way of admitting one’s deeds and taking responsibilities.
Your turn peeps! Did Derek cheat or not? Comment away and discuss adultery!